Friends, are gems that we collect along the journey of life. We pick up the new shiny ones, we tend to toss the old ones away from the drawer close to our heart to make room for the new ones. There are some we can't bring ourselves to part with, those we still hold dear to our heart.
A lot of time, the gems got dusty. We take them out to have a look and realise they are no longer shiny. It seems pity to toss them away. Hence we make some effort to polish it, trying very hard to bring the brilliance back into life. When it shines again, we cheer and dance. When it doesn't, we feel disappointed and sad.
I have a lot of gems with me. Along the way, I could usually pick up one or two new friends. Sometimes I picked up a handful! Out of this handful, some of them are precious stones that could take your breath away for a while.
I am not afraid to admit that I've let go some used-to-be precious stones. Let go is probably not appropriate in describing it, kept away would be just right. Polishing them just doesn't seem to work anymore, to toss them away would be a waste. Just keep them in a nice place, remembering how brilliant they used to shine and how they lit up my life.
We have all been hurt before. However, we have never thought that the reason of us getting hurt is probably caused by the different expectations we have for each other. It is so often that we've heard friends telling us "my good friend betrayed me". But have we ourselves never betrayed our friends? I believe we have, just that we are not aware of it. We do things that we think are reasonable. But to our friends, they may not think the same.
My BFF has recently said something which took me off guard. "I know you are a friend who would not abandon friends when you found a boyfriend or got married", she wrote in MSN. She missed out the "NOT" at first, after clarified with her and she said she meant "would NOT". LOL! I appreciate that she appreciates my efforts. That's all that matters. I do not need a gift from a friend to confirm and appreciate the friendship. The simplest way of expressing is, say or write your appreciation to me would do all the work just fine.
I have had friends who lost in touch with me after they have found their important other half. That is why I told myself I shall not do that to my friends and I hold tight to that silent promise. I truly believe that what others do unto you, please do not do unto others if it is not a good thing. Many a time I would hope for some revenge or payback. But my rationality got the better hold of me, why spend my time and effort in seeking revenge when I could use them wisely in other area? Anyway, what goes around comes around.
I am blessed with enough of true friends who really show that they do care about me. I am also blessed with enough of acquaintances who taught me how to behave and defense myself better. And I have to thank those who have hurt me given me the opportunity to learn to stand strong again and survive.
I should be grateful.
P.S.: I am no better than others. I do gossip too. Who doesn't? I have even had a very few friends who gossiped around and everything got back to my ears. Yes, when we gossip, please keep in mind that there is a big possibility that the person you're talking about may in the end know about it. No point in getting angry and seeking revenge, just keep those blunt stones away since they are no longer in the friend list.
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